Smile your way through life

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Life is like a song and a dance. A person who hardly smiles, has no joy and is always sad will move away from divinity.

If one is generally happy and joyous, spreading the joy and laughter around, surely the person is closer to the divinity.

People who smile less and are too serious about life are not much in tune with divinity and need to loosen up a bit. They take everything too seriously and have no clue how to sing and dance through life.

Life is about being alive and knowing it. Life is about love and care. It is about service/sewa unconditionally.

 

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If we can sing and dance joyfully serving others with a smile on our faces, we need not bother about either liberation or self realisation.

Liberation or Moksha as it so highly looked upon as a big target or something to achieve is nothing but liberation from our sorrows.

Now a person who is happy will not seek liberation as he is already liberated from his sorrows.

It is people who keep swinging up and down joy and sorrow or are always sad who will wish to be liberated.

Letting go of the body or as we term death is not being liberated. The mind still continues seeking another body to fulfill its desires.

So instead of doing yoga/sadhana etc to seek liberation, it is best to live like a yogi/sadhak. Such a person will never feel the need for liberation as he just knows that there is nothing to be liberated from. He is already free!
One who smiles, laughs, serves others, is a walking example of a loving caring human being who is close to the divine.

The more we smile, more we make others smile and that’s the best sewa one can do for the world.

Problems and situations will come and stand in front of us. What can we do? Smile, as only then the divinity is closer to us and solutions will happen eventually.

So now as you read this please smile…life is just about this much. Everything else that we are so serious about is really not worth it. Smile and spread the smile…

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Spread the joy

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A small three letter word! But power packed isn’t it?

Joy unlike sorrow generally seems to be short lived. If we see the words, joy is a small word and sorrow is a 6 letter word!

So sorrow lasts double of joy? 🙂 🙂 🙂

NO!!!!

Joy is our very nature, while sorrow is just a variation in the mind. We feel it is sorrow and always it is short lived though it just seems like it continued for a long time.

Our basic nature is joy and it will never take any effort on our part to be in a state of joy. Unlike sorrow that is not our true nature and so will take a lot of effort to retain.

Why do we mask our joy with sorrow? It is unnecessary. We know by now that everything is changing around us and within us. Every moment change is happening and it is constant. so what’s the worry? When this very body does not last forever and ever then anything associated with it cannot last too!

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While joy is within and happens to be our basic nature, sorrow is like an illusion. It is not a part of us and we try to make it a part of us. Sorrow is always because we think everything is permanent. The life we are now living, with a particular identity is not permanent, so how then is it possible that anything linked to this particular identity could be permanent?

When the realization that everything is temporary including this form and name, registers within us, joy simply flows. Sorrow then, has no place! it never was…it was just a passing phase where everything did not seem to be working as per our wish.

Attachments bring expectations and that in turn brings sorrow. Accept instead of expect would be ideal and would never allow sorrow to come near us.

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All we need to do is explore within us, feel gratitude and receive the grace to feel love, joy and peace flowing through us. As it flows through us it will spread around us and every person who meets us will feel a positive vibe…

Life is full…full of love…joy…peace and so much more. If we look beyond our day to day small issues, we will see how much sorrow is simply spreading around us. It is like a virus. Best ignored!

Spread the love, its there in abundance within us. Spread the joy…that too is flowing…

Gratitude

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A sole word “thanks” and an emotion of gratitude would eventually bring us grace! What exactly is grace?

Grace is something that we receive extra…Just like grace marks to pass in School exams 🙂

How it works?

Well, when we feel immense gratitude and thankful to someone we express it and this leaves us feeling satisfied and complete. Gratitude brings grace. The divine decides to allow something extra because of our thankful nature. So we get  a little more than what we worked for!

How difficult is it to feel gratitude? I have seen its not easy. The words “Thank you, Thanks” etc flow easily. But the required emotion of gratitude is generally missing.

Let us feel gratitude and the word “thanks” will come naturally…

Gratitude for what? Most of the times we feel we deserve all that we receive or that we worked for it and if we received something in return, whats the big deal!

We fail to see that many a times we receive much more than what we should have. This grace goes unnoticed by us.

We all need grace and for that we just simply need to feel thankful. For what?

For every single thing we have…For this very human life, for all that we have received until now and for hundreds of things that really mattered. Always the hand of the divine has been on our head. Always and always we have been saved by grace and yet we fail to see it, and if we see it, we do not bow down in prayer.

Why does this happen? because we are too busy complaining about the little things we did not receive…We are too focused on what we need, what we didn’t receive and so on.

We miss grace in this kind of attitude. Just simply let us fold our hands and pray. let us feel gratitude for everything, for this very day, for this very morning that we woke up.

Life is so full of adventure. We never know what’s next. Let us  live this adventure with fun, frolic, love, peace and joy! Let us spread the love and joy. Every moment let us work towards this goal. Spreading love and joy should become a natural phenomena.

Let us not get caught up in worldly issues. They will come and go…Change is constant…what was yesterday is not today.

 

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The past incidents will prove like a reference guide for us. We have come a long way and there is yet a long way to go…

Grace is always flowing…Gratitude opens the path of grace for us and we receive in abundance…

Time to feel gratitude! Thank you Lord for everything…every single thing….

A lone tear

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A lone tear drop sat on her cheek
Again it was me who made her cry
Her eyes glistened with tears unshed
How oft did I do this to her I feared

My possessiveness had become a bane
I felt my eyes pricking with tears of shame
Her angelic face now devoid of color
My heart broke as I saw her lips quiver

If love could bring so much sorrow
Tears of grief like a painful arrow
She sniffed and turned her face away
Was life truly just a drama, a play?

My love for her was unfathomable
Life without her would be miserable
Just like the pearl hidden in the ocean
I hid the depth of my love and emotion

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As she turned to walk away from me
I held her hand wanting her to stay with me
There was no life without her by my side
I looked up into her eyes… her tears dried

Tears now flowing from my eyes
I looked deeply into her eyes
How could she live without me?
How could I live without her?

She touched my cheek with her palm
Feather like touch I felt so calm
The pearl in the ocean had surfaced
Depth of love had resurfaced

Hand in hand we walked along
My lips now humming a love song
Her heart was beating along with mine
Two hearts, one love, was just divine

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Love your woman

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How to treat the women in your life? Be it your mother, daughter, sister, lover, wife or a friend…

Open the car door for your woman, help her alight from the car, hold her hand while crossing the road…(Small details)

Never allow a woman to carry heavy bags, carry them for her. Look into her eyes while talking and show her how much you care. Never interrupt while she talks, though at times it might not make much sense!

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However much you feel you know a woman, you will never know her. She is an enigma, a mystery that you cannot solve ever…never try to dissect her feelings.

You will fail miserably. She is the puzzle that you can never solve and yet she is so simple that you feel you just know her totally and it is at this confident moment of yours that she will put you in a dilemma.

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A woman is exactly like a bud in different stages of blossoming. Allow her to blossom, have the patience. Do not rip her apart trying to make her blossom fast…it doesn’t work like that with a woman. She takes her own sweet time, allow her to take that time…

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Love her totally and unconditionally…you need her more than she needs you though she may pretend that she needs you more and cannot manage without you.
Look at any home without a father…they can manage as they have their mother! Look at a home without a mother and you will see how difficult it is!

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I lost my dad when I was barely 8 years old and with my younger sis, my mom managed to bring us up well…it is not that we did not miss our dad. We did miss him and still do, yet we sailed through. At times I wondered if instead of him, we had lost her, how would dad have managed? He wouldn’t have. He would probably have remarried or asked one of our aunts to take care of us.

Always remember that a woman can easily manage without you…She is Shakti…She allows you to take care of her and behaves like she would be lost without you. Remember she is the one who is Saraswati and also Durga and Kali. All these different Avatars are one single woman.

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Your woman who looks docile like a small kitten may any moment turn into a tigress. That is the specialty of a woman. God made her like that! She just chooses the forms based on the need of the hour!

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So love her totally, respect every form of hers. She is versatile and ever changing. Her moods change colors so fast, you may miss a few colors. Sail with her, its fun. If only you set aside your male ego and go along with her, life will be an adventure.

She is the ultimate combination of love, joy, peace, fun, anger, sound, songs, music, dance etc. Her form and beauty is unsurpassed ( it was why the beauty of a woman is described in much detail in our ancient scriptures ).

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Never love her conditionally. She will never accept it. She may implement all the conditions in your relationship and yet she will want you to love her just the way she is. If you start rolling out a list of conditions, very soon she will just take her heart away from yours and you will be left without her love!

Why analyze a woman? She is not a Math puzzle, she is nothing scientific. She is like the sun, the moon, stars and the waves. Totally unpredictable and amazingly beautiful if you just accept and do not expect.

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Look at Mother Nature and look at a woman, they are same. There is absolutely no difference. The amount of love you can experience lying in the lap of nature or lap of a woman is same. You will feel secure, taken care of and totally loved.

 

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When she is angry it is like the white fluffy clouds have turned grey black ready to burst. Her anger is like thunder and her eyes flash like lightning…her words are like arrows and when the cloud bursts forth, it rains and she cries…
Very soon the clouds are white again, she is that forgiving…

 

Look at the waves in the sea, look at the moon and its changing shapes. Wherever you look you will see the woman.
If so willingly you accept nature in every form, why not accept the women in your life in the same manner?

Believe me it is not difficult. Just flow with her and see, you will enjoy life in a completely different way. Be with her and stop dominating her. Let her dominate, let her call the rules in the game. She is so sweet, so innocent that if you ask her to call the rules, she will hand over the rule book and ask you to do it. She is really that innocent and trusting.

She just wants to know that she is loved and cared for. Most of the time, she is the one loving and caring for you. Small acknowledgements, gestures and a touch at times will be enough for her. She is that sensitive.

So remember all this and now look at the women in your life. They are special, they are prakriti, they are existence…their being on this planet has made the planet so beautiful and worth living…

One last note…when she throws tantrums which will be rare if you love her the way mentioned above, just look at her face, into her eyes and say “I LOVE YOU” and you will see her melt. Just like the ice-cream she will melt and forget her anger or whatever her feeling was…

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Life is all about love and if there is a woman in your life, love is there by default. Love her…and see how life sails through like a breeze…how you will feel that this life should never end and how you will see yourself as part of her, merging with her…one with her…

Woman’s liberation

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We always feel that liberation is impossible and that when the body leaves us, all that the body possessed is lost and we may feel a sense of liberation.
But that is not true, because when the body is no longer ours and it just drops, by default we are left with nothing but some memories. It is not out of choice, but out of fate.

Most women in our country experience a sense of liberation when they are alive. They give up their entire life for their family and all through the years, though they may get a few clothes and jewelry, they usually do not own anything else.

They live their lives in sewa and until their last breath are only giving whatever they can. They have nothing to call their own. A mother who spends her entire youth and middle years raising her child is finally left with nothing. Generally with failing health and no one to take care of her, she just lives her remaining life liberated. Everything she feels was hers is no longer with her.

Usually left with no money and no health and most assuredly no major bank balance or property in her name, she is a liberated soul. Kids would have flown the nest and she would probably be left with a husband who just wishes her to continue doing the chores of the house till her last breath.

Her entire life she spent in serving and taking care of others. What she got in return was probably a few words of appreciation accompanied by some anger, bitterness etc. This she would obviously disregard and continue with her services.

If she wishes to fly away at any point of time from her service, she would not be allowed to do so, due to social restrictions and also financial constraints. Busy serving her family, she never bothered to accumulate any wealth for herself for her future.

She is left with nothing to call her own. All she would have, once her children have left her is a dependent husband to serve. It would be a bit late at that age to go out and earn a living. If she wishes to do something on her own, her husband may not support her and so finally she is forced to stay with him and serve him until her death.

If she had invested those 20 or 30 years for herself, she would have been independent and take her own decisions and live as per her wish. But would she feel liberated?

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A woman who has given her life for her family and in return has nothing of her own except her own body would have felt liberated several times in her life. Though she does not have the freedom of choice she is free.

Free of the constraints that accumulated money brings. Free of her children who decide that they need their privacy, free of everyone and everything. She owns nothing, absolutely nothing at all. She does not have to write a will or sign any cheques…

She looks to be bound, by her spouse who needs her now. But she cannot belong to him. A man who only used her all his life and still wishes to, a man who never allowed her to blossom or find her path, a man who stifled her so that he could feel superior…

She is free of that man…had he loved her, cared for her, given his entire earnings to her, given a home for her and treated her like a queen, she would be bound…she would then have been attached to all the wealth that he gave her, attached to the love and care and bound by the home that was given to her…

She has nothing and no one to lose. She was alone and would be alone…in loneliness one finds a lot of answers. When no one is hers, nothing belongs to her then what was there to be liberated of?

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A body is all that belongs to her…and the clear knowledge that it can just drop anytime becomes clear. There is no sorrow as there is nothing to lose.
Why would she need to read the Gita and other scriptures and try to understand liberation?

All she needed to do was, quit her job ( in case she was employed ), care for the family for the whole life and gather nothing in her name. Then except the body there was nothing left to leave…

She was free because she had nothing that she could say she owned. Absolutely nothing!

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The mind… a graveyard…

What is this mind and why does it have so much control over us? It is nothing but a huge collection of impressions and tendencies…

When something affects us in some way, it forms an impression and stays stored in the mind. So the mind is basically a collection of the dead past. All that is happened and over is stored in it and accumulates there. Mind is that special device which has no storage limit, it has unlimited storage.

So what’s the point in collecting all the garbage or rather dead impressions or memories? Dead means that which no longer exists, its gone! So basically the mind is a graveyard. Only the old and the dead live and make home there.

De-clutter the mind, is a common term used. How do we do that? Just like we clean up our homes and wardrobes before a festival or celebration in our home, same way we can try to remove some of the clutter from our mind. Yet its almost impossible as the storage is deep and at times unreachable.

Also, whether we wish to clean the dead impressions or feel safer keeping and gathering more is the question! We are scared to go near a graveyard or a crematorium and take bath if we visit one. What is the fear about? Are the dead going to rise? Are they going to suddenly appear in flesh and blood or in any form for that matter? They won’t and they cannot. We all know this, yet we are afraid.

Just by pouring water on the body, can we rid ourselves of the negativity we feel we brought from the area where dead are buried or burnt?

Yet with so much deadly matter in our mind, we roam around confidently. If we were asked to stay silent and not speak or interact with anyone, what would happen? The first thing would be the dead would rise from our mind. All would come to life and scare us to death!

So we are scared of being alone and seek company. We are actually not afraid of being in a graveyard. We just feel so. In reality we are afraid of our mind and its contents. So we avoid looking inside and make our self believe that we have a very clean and good mind.

This is impossible because, even if the impressions stored are good memories, they are still of the past. We all know that past is dead and so all that is stored is old and dead. Good or bad does not matter. Whether you store good or bad apples, eventually all will rot. So the rotten matter in the mind is fermenting and creates waves which influence our thoughts and actions.

It really does not matter what was stored. Everything is now rotten and smelly. The mind has no clue as it’s a storage unit. It just keeps making more space and is quite generous.

The mind has to go…as de-cluttering, cleaning and maintenance will never happen. Impressions are getting stored because we have a storage unit. If we do not have a storage unit, where will we store? How will we manage without a storage device?

Do we need the mind or not? How important is the mind? Is there a mind at all??

How important is a graveyard or a crematorium? We need it to burn or bury. Eventually nothing remains…everything is destroyed on a day to day basis. Nothing is stored long term…

Mind is non-existential. We need to understand this. It does not exist. We feel it does. The device, the storage, the space and the impressions are all fictitious. Nothing is real…

The reason it exists is because we feel it does. When the sun shines, the moon no longer is visible. It may be there in the sky and yet it just becomes invisible.

The light of knowledge, light of atman should shine bright like the sun. The light of love, peace and joy when it spreads will diffuse the mind and leave nothing behind…

When there is love, peace and joy emanating from us, what impressions will be formed and what will be stored? Nothing! We no longer need a storage device. There are no impressions…

Love peace and joy are like the sun…spreading the warmth, giving life to all and yet leaving nothing behind…destroying all the negatives with its strong rays….