How to treat the women in your life? Be it your mother, daughter, sister, lover, wife or a friend…
Open the car door for your woman, help her alight from the car, hold her hand while crossing the road…(Small details)
Never allow a woman to carry heavy bags, carry them for her. Look into her eyes while talking and show her how much you care. Never interrupt while she talks, though at times it might not make much sense!
However much you feel you know a woman, you will never know her. She is an enigma, a mystery that you cannot solve ever…never try to dissect her feelings.
You will fail miserably. She is the puzzle that you can never solve and yet she is so simple that you feel you just know her totally and it is at this confident moment of yours that she will put you in a dilemma.
A woman is exactly like a bud in different stages of blossoming. Allow her to blossom, have the patience. Do not rip her apart trying to make her blossom fast…it doesn’t work like that with a woman. She takes her own sweet time, allow her to take that time…
Love her totally and unconditionally…you need her more than she needs you though she may pretend that she needs you more and cannot manage without you.
Look at any home without a father…they can manage as they have their mother! Look at a home without a mother and you will see how difficult it is!
I lost my dad when I was barely 8 years old and with my younger sis, my mom managed to bring us up well…it is not that we did not miss our dad. We did miss him and still do, yet we sailed through. At times I wondered if instead of him, we had lost her, how would dad have managed? He wouldn’t have. He would probably have remarried or asked one of our aunts to take care of us.
Always remember that a woman can easily manage without you…She is Shakti…She allows you to take care of her and behaves like she would be lost without you. Remember she is the one who is Saraswati and also Durga and Kali. All these different Avatars are one single woman.
Your woman who looks docile like a small kitten may any moment turn into a tigress. That is the specialty of a woman. God made her like that! She just chooses the forms based on the need of the hour!
So love her totally, respect every form of hers. She is versatile and ever changing. Her moods change colors so fast, you may miss a few colors. Sail with her, its fun. If only you set aside your male ego and go along with her, life will be an adventure.
She is the ultimate combination of love, joy, peace, fun, anger, sound, songs, music, dance etc. Her form and beauty is unsurpassed ( it was why the beauty of a woman is described in much detail in our ancient scriptures ).
Never love her conditionally. She will never accept it. She may implement all the conditions in your relationship and yet she will want you to love her just the way she is. If you start rolling out a list of conditions, very soon she will just take her heart away from yours and you will be left without her love!
Why analyze a woman? She is not a Math puzzle, she is nothing scientific. She is like the sun, the moon, stars and the waves. Totally unpredictable and amazingly beautiful if you just accept and do not expect.
Look at Mother Nature and look at a woman, they are same. There is absolutely no difference. The amount of love you can experience lying in the lap of nature or lap of a woman is same. You will feel secure, taken care of and totally loved.
When she is angry it is like the white fluffy clouds have turned grey black ready to burst. Her anger is like thunder and her eyes flash like lightning…her words are like arrows and when the cloud bursts forth, it rains and she cries…
Very soon the clouds are white again, she is that forgiving…
Look at the waves in the sea, look at the moon and its changing shapes. Wherever you look you will see the woman.
If so willingly you accept nature in every form, why not accept the women in your life in the same manner?
Believe me it is not difficult. Just flow with her and see, you will enjoy life in a completely different way. Be with her and stop dominating her. Let her dominate, let her call the rules in the game. She is so sweet, so innocent that if you ask her to call the rules, she will hand over the rule book and ask you to do it. She is really that innocent and trusting.
She just wants to know that she is loved and cared for. Most of the time, she is the one loving and caring for you. Small acknowledgements, gestures and a touch at times will be enough for her. She is that sensitive.
So remember all this and now look at the women in your life. They are special, they are prakriti, they are existence…their being on this planet has made the planet so beautiful and worth living…
One last note…when she throws tantrums which will be rare if you love her the way mentioned above, just look at her face, into her eyes and say “I LOVE YOU” and you will see her melt. Just like the ice-cream she will melt and forget her anger or whatever her feeling was…
Life is all about love and if there is a woman in your life, love is there by default. Love her…and see how life sails through like a breeze…how you will feel that this life should never end and how you will see yourself as part of her, merging with her…one with her…