It is hot now in Dubai. The outside temperature is rising with no respite. Oh! I have to wait until October to enjoy the cool breeze…
The heat always reminds me of hot tempers. We all get angry. Don’t we? For some, I would say anger is on the tip of their nose. Like a red spot. Imagine a volcano. Nice cone shaped and sober. And then suddenly it erupts. Molten lava flowing out….
Anger is a common trait in all of us. Most of us burst out just like a firecracker. Only thing is our anger lasts longer. The sparks are long lasting and hurtful at times….
Why do we lose our temper? Is it because things do not happen the way we want them to? People around us do not behave as we would like them to? Is that why we get angry?
At times we get angry with ourselves too. Our behavior or things happening in our life which are not in our control irk us.
Rather than trying to control the feeling of anger, we could first try to control our reaction while we are angry. Taking deep breaths and trying to relax would actually bring down the level of temper. But it is very difficult to do so when we are boiling with rage.
Words when uttered in anger could be really bitter and could leave a permanent scar on someone you love. When we are very angry with a person who we would not want to hurt, I would suggest- ‘go for a walk’
A brisk walk calms you down and you can come back later and speak your point of view without hurting the other person and also evaluate the reason for your anger.
I have lost my temper many a times and have relentlessly spoken long unwanted speeches which I have regretted later….
But of late I have calmed down a lot and am able to hold my anger and my words (which are my strength). I have decided to use this strength of mine in writing down my feelings, thoughts and emotions rather than trying to vent it out in anger and turning my strength into a weapon (or should I say weakness).
After all ‘A pen is mightier than the sword’- it’s true….Words have tremendous power…and we need to use it correctly for making, building and not destroying….